What if you have no where to go?

Some women stay because they feel they have no where else to go.

Rather than deciding to tough it out (the statistics on death at the hands of a spouse or partner show this is not a good idea), if you are in an abusive relationship and need to get out you have options.  Shelternet is one.  As their website explains, Shelternet

was created to provide reliable and up-to-date information for abused women, their family, friends, and colleagues in Canada. Please browse the website or take a look through our special sections on topics such as understanding abuse, find a shelter, or abuse and children.

There is information on the Shelternet site designed for the specific needs of teens, children, family + friend (support information).

To access Shelternet in:  French, Spanish, Polish, Vietanamese, Chinese, Arabic, Farsi and Punjabi go to Shelternet Translations.

Alternatively you can contact the Transition House closest to where you live. The number one priority is your personal safety and that of your children.  You can consider your options after you are in safe place.

A Transition House provides:

• a safe place for you and your children
• food and other necessities
• temporary shelter
• support in getting financial, medical or legal help
• emotional help and counselling

The Legal Services Society Family Law Website also has information on dealing with abuse.

Some things you can do if the police won’t do anything

In some cases you may have already reported the matter to the police and have been told there is insufficient evidence to take any action against the person making the threats.  Obviously, if you are being threatened with violence, stalked or you are fearful because you are being harassed this is both extremely frightening and frustrating.

However, there are some steps you can take to empower and protect yourself.  The following list with links provides some ideas to get you started:

Suggestions and strategies to increase your safety if you feel intimidated, threatened or you think you are being stalked

Need protection from someone who has physically abused you or is threatening to do so?  Review detailed info on peace bonds, restraining orders and no contact orders or you can read the LSS Fact sheet (which is also translated) here Fact Sheet.

Further information and resources dealing with family situations, safety, abuse and help to stop family violence can be accessed through the Clicklaw web portal.